Counseling for
Couples, Marriage and Family
Focused on:
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Navigating major milestones and changes
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Conflict Management
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Communication Skills
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Premarital Counseling
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Affair Recovery
No matter what kind of relationship you find yourself in, there is always work that needs to be done. Let us help show you practical solutions and tools that will help develop and strengthen your relationship. At REMM Counseling, we are committed to providing evidence based approaches in all of our services. For Couples, Marriage and Family counseling we use The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Revised Edition). This is the culmination of Dr. Gottman’s, a renowned marriage and couples counselor, lifelong work, which is an overview of the concepts, behaviors and skills that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.
In addition, we also provide workshops for new parents through the Gottman Bringing Baby Home Program. These research-based Bringing Baby Home workshops prepare parents for life with their baby and helps them provide the best parenting possible, while maintaining a relationship. In a relaxed and supportive environment, parents learn to strengthen their relationships and foster their baby’s development during this challenging time.
Welcome to The Gottman Institute
A Research-Based Approach to Couples Counseling:
Here at REMM Counseling, we utilize the Gottman Method in our approach to counseling. John Gottman is a psychologist and researcher who has spent more than 40 years researching couples. Based on his research, he claims to be able to predict which married couples will divorce and which will stay married with 90% accuracy.
One of the innovations of Gottman’s approach to research was that he observed how couples interacted in a live-in environment just like in the show Big Brother. Through the multiple cameras installed, he was able to see how couples interacted naturally. By studying hundreds of couples this way, he was able to distinguish certain differences in the behaviors of the couples who have successful marriages and the couples who end up getting divorced or separated.
Based on his research Gottman has constructed a theory of all the behaviors successful couples engage in, which today has become known as “The Sound Relationship House”
The Gottman Relationship Checkup
The Sound Relationship House:
The Sound Relationship House contains all the elements found to predict relationship success in what is now called the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling.
First we have the pillars of the relationship: Trust and Commitment. These are fundamental to creating the boundaries for there to even be a relationship. They involve being faithful to each other and developing the trust needed to be emotionally vulnerable. According to Gottman, without these pillars in place, you cannot build a sound relationship.
Once the boundaries of the relationship have been established, couples can begin to focus on creating a house in which they want to live.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work:
With more than a million copies sold, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work continues to strengthen relationships worldwide. Although originally written for married couples, the Seven Principles have shown to be universal, whether in romantic relationships or in relationships with family, co-workers, or friends.
Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach proven approaches for managing conflict, creating common ground, and achieving greater levels of connection.
You will learn how to cultivate friendship, fondness, and admiration as the basis of all happy relationships. You will learn the phases of a relationship, as well as how to know who you can trust. You will learn how to understand the role of constructive conflict in healthy relationships. You will learn how to focus on life dreams and shared meaning as a route to fulfilling relationships and a fulfilling life for yourself.
The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John Gottman - Relationship Advice ► Book Summary
Bringing Baby Home:
Even the strongest relationships are strained during the transition to parenthood. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework and new fiscal concerns can lead to profound stress and a decline in marital satisfaction — all of which affect baby’s care. Not surprisingly, 67% of new parents experience conflict, disappointment and hurt feelings.
Our research-based Bringing Baby Home workshops prepare couples for life with baby and helps them be the best parenting team possible. In a relaxed and supportive environment, parents learn to strengthen their relationship and foster baby’s development during this challenging time. They build on what Dr. Gottman and colleagues found is the best predictor of marital adjustment after baby arrives: the quality of friendship in the marriage. Learn how to teach pregnant and parenting couples the skills needed to encourage healthy, supportive family relationships.