Is your relationship in a rut? Are you concerned that expressing yourself could lead to conflict? Are you confused about how to reconnect? It can be difficult to figure out where to start when you feel like you don't even know the person sleeping next to you anymore. Relationships have ups and downs but when you are in it, it can be hard to see a way through the struggles. Feeling alone in your relationship is not an uncommon feeling but things can get better. Imagine going through your day and looking forward to the next time you see your partner. What if you knew that you could talk openly and feel understood by the person you love the most? You can have a relationship where you feel emotionally and physically connected to your partner.
Life isn’t always easy. Sometimes, even the strongest people amongst us need a little bit of help to work through some of life’s more challenging problems. Everyone has battles to fight and hurdles to overcome at some point. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression, self-esteem, or any other issue, you should know that there is hope for a better tomorrow. You might be initially hesitant to seek out help and support for personal matters, but when you do, you will feel confident that you are taking a courageous first step towards getting to a better place and being a better you.
Do you ever feel alone in a room full of people or lonely in what should be a loving relationship? Are you anxious or sad and don't know why (or maybe do)? If you struggle to connect, to trust, to reach out, to pursue what you desire or to stop doing what doesn't work, our work together will begin with creating a safe, open, inquisitive, and engaging relationship with me. I believe the connection and strong alliance with the therapist is essential for developing a secure base from which you can gain the confidence to understand yourself in new ways and to explore and pursue more meaningful changes professionally and relationally.
A Research-Based Approach to Couples Counseling:
Here at REMM Counseling, we utilize the Gottman Method in our approach to counseling. John Gottman is a psychologist and researcher who has spent more than 40 years researching couples. Based on his research, he claims to be able to predict which married couples will divorce and which will stay married with 90% accuracy.
One of the innovations of Gottman’s approach to research was that he observed how couples interacted in a live-in environment just like in the show Big Brother. Through the multiple cameras installed, he was able to see how couples interacted naturally. By studying hundreds of couples this way, he was able to distinguish certain differences in the behaviors of the couples who have successful marriages and the couples who end up getting divorced or separated.
Based on his research Gottman has constructed a theory of all the behaviors successful couples engage in, which today has become known as “The Sound Relationship House”
The Sound Relationship House:
The Sound Relationship House contains all the elements found to predict relationship success in what is now called the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling.
First we have the pillars of the relationship: Trust and Commitment. These are fundamental to creating the boundaries for there to even be a relationship. They involve being faithful to each other and developing the trust needed to be emotionally vulnerable. According to Gottman, without these pillars in place, you cannot build a sound relationship.
Once the boundaries of the relationship have been established, couples can begin to focus on creating a house in which they want to live.
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